You've got it now, baby. Just run with it.

Well, it looks like this blog has a new contributor. Not sure how many people are reading this yet, as it was basically started last week, but....just thought I'd have a little intro post here.

I've been friends with Eazy since high school and we've recently been introduced to the PUA universe, although he has known about it/been practicing it a little longer than I have. If you knew us in real life, you would probably think we are the weirdest or the most interesting people you have ever met. Weird as in we have such odd and eclectic interests that span the entire myriad of....things.

Anyways,...

I think that the important thing to know about this new realm of social interaction is that we each take something different out of it and we each should be our own individuals. Too often do I see people online, on forums, and other places try to mimic Mystery, Style, and Matador. They are great pick up artists, don't get me wrong. If I could ever come close to matching their success, that would be a feat indeed.

However, I think that the most important thing is to get the big picture from their lessons. Sure you can memorize their lines if you want, but I don't really feel like it's me if I'm using them ALL THE TIME.

Be competent, be alpha, and always think to yourself- I'm awesome, people would love to meet me. This is not some sort of ego booster, mind you. This is for all the people out there who just beat themselves up because they think- "that girl is too hot" or "they're too cool for me" or just some other excuse as to why you don't want to engage new people or why you were shut out of a set.
People try to create avatars of who they would like to be and, a lot of times, tell some lies in order to game girls. Now- I don't care about little white lies like when you are telling a story to embed some DHV spikes- but don't lie about who you are. You don't have to MAKE yourself interesting. EVERYONE is interesting in some way. If you have experienced DIFFERENT things that I have not and you know of things that are new TO ME, then you are interesting because I can learn something/be entertained by you. Of course, when I say “I” and “me”, I'm referring to new people you might encounter. It's funny, because you might be thinking, this is like saying “Everyone is special!”, which- yeah, you can think about it that way. It may seem cliché, contrived, and stupid, but...it's true.

Put your own spin on it. Make it your own. I'm not telling you to “just be yourself”. Of course if that advice worked, we'd be all getting laid 24/7. What I'm telling you is to take those lessons that you learn from going out into the field and learning pick up and really take the major points from it. Follow the advice you learn from Mystery Method or The Game, but don't forget that, especially after you've built attraction and are just getting into comfortable conversation with the girl or group, you've gotta be you at some point.

That said, is it wrong to take material and routines you learn from other people? No. Of course not. I see people come up with great stuff all the time in PUA forums that I've used at some point. All I'm saying is that don't feel FORCED to change yourself just to be a “pick up artist”. Because one of the most important things, I feel, is to be NATURAL with it. If it feels to pre-scripted, it's gonna show. I've heard Mystery say that you have to internalize pick up. Yeah, that's true. People may misunderstand this as memorizing stuff. I feel like it can be more easily described as just being able to flow with it, so that you don't have to rely on scripted stuff.

I mean, really, it's more about how you say it, so don't just spit out lines you don't actually mean.

That's enough for now. I tend to write a lot more than I should just to get my point across. So, in conclusion:

You've got it now, baby. Just run with it.

Rejection is fun.

It is. Really. It took me a year to realize it, and when you hear those words you feel like a sack o' shit. But afterwards, you laugh about it. I feel this process, the more you talk to people, is true.

Now, rejection can mean on a date, people disinterested in talking to you, or people trying to make fun of you. Keep that in mind.

phaze 1 In the beginning, you analyze every detail and completely ruin your day over one rejection.
phaze 2 You analyze every detail about what happened, but you get over it quicker; maybe laugh.
phaze 3 After the rejection, you analyze it, then you do it again later.
phaze 4 You get rejected, don't care, laugh about it and go right back into it. Your comfortable with rejection and actually like it. It keeps things interesting and you LEARN FROM IT for the next time.

Example, I was on the bus and asked the girl next to me if she was feeling spontaneous and wanted to play a mind game I came across. She said "No, thanks." I wasn't expecting this, felt a little shitty, but recovered in about a minute. I think I'm around 3. BUT, it was successful because I learned something new. I didn't ask other people around me right after, which would have been better to seem not creepy or whatever. Next time, I'll be prepared. Rejection is fun damnit!

On a side note, I'm posting more links that are great. They're on the side and below.
Sweep-a-Girl-off-Her-Feet
Talk-to-Strangers

The Social Experiment: Who'se spontaneous?

At the bottom of this post is a social scavenger hunt. (I usually have one good idea per year. I think this is it.) I made this for a few reasons:

First, I really believe that people are bored with themselves. If you don't think so, check this out. Can you imagine you run into somebody gives you their number? At first you might be taken back. But think about it. If people are truly bored, who wouldn't be interested in such an event? It adds so much mystery. Who is that? Should I respond? It's so curious you might just call. That's what I want to find out - to see who actually calls.

Yes, this is a guy scavenger hunt, but if there are any girls reading this (I don't think anyone is) and want to try this, I don't think it will work. This list is designed for guys because its modeled around the whole tradition of the guy hunting the girl. If a girl randomly gave you her number, you'd be shittin all around town. Why? Because it's easier for girls to ask guys out (but they don't). Or rather, the success is significantly higher. I'm not gonna bullshit you, I have no statistical proof. But it makes sense.

Second, you might make a friend or two. Who knows? If you successfully give at least 30 girls (or guys) your number, I hypothesize you'd get 5 responses. When I actually do this, I'll compare by findings.

Even though I feel people are bored with their lives, most people are just too fucking introverted. I hate that when I talk to someone and they are completely unresponsive, like I just ate their cat or some shit. From my "field-testing", around 10% of people will actually "talk" to you, as apposed to people who just answer your questions. That's not anything; that's an interview. It sucks. To be fair, we couldn't have outgoing people if there were no introverts to compare to. Talking on the bus, elevator, class, street, food stand, wherever.

Interesting Find

Most single-serving conversations contain the same boring-ass questions and fillers: (These are taken from my college campus)

"I'm good, how are you?"
"It's nice out."
(after awkward silence)Yeahhhhhhhhhhhh. "
"Well, it was nice meeting you."
"Where are you living next year?"
"How's your sorority/fraternity?"
"I'm so tired (I'm hearing this more and more. Maybe mono's goin around). Other renditions are: "I'm tired as fuck." and: "I slept so much yesterday and I'm still tired."
"What did you do this weekend?"
"My balls itch." (just kidding with that last one.)

I mean, that's how most shit goes with strangers. Granted you don't know anything about them. But that's just it, if you're outgoing, wouldn't you like to know more about them to make a potential friend or lover? No? Yes.

The next time you're talking to someone random, check to see if they say those things. Hell, I probably will too.

So, here we go. Check number 4 especially. Can you imagine her face when it was all a joke? Your threatening remark is gone and is a good topic of conversation. Maybe you'll actually get the date? BYAHH.!

DO THE FOLLOWING IN ONE DAY:

1. GIVE AT LEAST 30 GIRLS YOUR NUMBER ON PAPER (LIKE HOW IT USED TO BE)
NUMBER OF GIRLS ____
NUMBER OF RESPONSES (TEXTS OR CALLS) ____

2. HIGH-FIVE AT LEAST 40 PEOPLE
NUMBER OF PEOPLE FIVED _____

3. TAKE A PICTURE WITH AT LEAST 30 PEOPLE
PICTURES _____

4. GET REJECTED BY AT LEAST 15 GIRLS ON PURPOSE

LET EACH GIRL INITIAL BELOW: __________________________________________________________

5. ASK AT LEAST 20 PEOPLE WITH MP3 PLAYERS WHAT THEY’RE LISTENING TO
NUMBER ASKED _____
COMMON SONGS _______________________________________________________________

6. ASK AT LEAST 20 PEOPLE TO HANG OUT SOMETIME (SPONTANEOUS?)
NUMBER OF PEOPLE _____
SAID YES ____
SAID NO ____

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